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That’s what they always said on Pride day in my hometown, San Francisco. Summer weather in San Francisco is awful, but the last Sunday in June is always glorious. My girlfriend and everyone I know is in New York today, … Continue reading →

I’m finally getting close to being finished with a new book, A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Ecstasy. It will be published by Seal Press in January of next year. I was teaching and commuting between Philly and Brooklyn too much … Continue reading →

Holly Hughes sent me this rant last week and it’s so awesome I had to share it. It’s also posted on Velvetpark By Holly Hughes So far 2011 is reminding me alot of 1991. Twenty years ago, a series of … Continue reading →

Have you read The Ethical Slut? It’s the bible of the polyamory set written by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. It’s a classic and a must-read if you want to date, or even just sleep, around. I read it years … Continue reading →

How can one avoid lesbian relationships that are hard work emotionally? Is there even such a thing as a committed lesbian relationship that isn’t hard work emotionally? Listen, there’s no way to be intimately involved with another person and not … Continue reading →

Is it weird that last night I dreamed I was Jackie Chan and I was having phenomenal sex with the hottest woman EVER? Btw, I’m not a J.C. fan. Last night I dreamed I was evacuating a menagerie of cute … Continue reading →

I’m a high femme who often gets read as straight by most lesbians. Other than by adding rainbow accessories to my outfits, are there any good queer markers for high femmes? Listen sister, I feel your pain. I mean what’s … Continue reading →

I’m disappointed that in the question about Mary Daly and Andrea Dworkin, you didn’t address the rampant transpobia of either one! What’s up with that? Second wave feminism was (is?) plagued by transphobia. It’s not limited to Daly and Dworkin, … Continue reading →

What are some nice normal things I can say to girls I don’t know at the bar that wont read as creeper? I keep defaulting to space camp, but, as I’ve no real interest in space, it’s really failing me. … Continue reading →