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Ice-Age Porn

One of the oldest and most famous depictions of the sexualized female body is The Venus of Willendorf. Dating back to 22,000 BCE, the Venus of Willendorf is a limestone carving about four inches high of a naked woman with … Continue reading

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Eros the Bittersweet

I asked my gf to talk to me about the erotic and she handed me Anne Carson’s Eros the Bittersweet. It was perfect, actually, and allowed me to think about the erotic as a combination of love and frustration, something … Continue reading

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God Loves the Gays

That’s what they always said on Pride day in my hometown, San Francisco. Summer weather in San Francisco is awful, but the last Sunday in June is always glorious. My girlfriend and everyone I know is in New York today, … Continue reading

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Writing About Orgasms

I’m finally getting close to being finished with a new book, A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Ecstasy. It will be published by Seal Press in January of next year. I was teaching and commuting between Philly and Brooklyn too much … Continue reading

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So far 2011 is reminding me alot of 1991

Holly Hughes sent me this rant last week and it’s so awesome I had to share it. It’s also posted on Velvetpark By Holly Hughes So far 2011 is reminding me alot of 1991. Twenty years ago, a series of … Continue reading

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The Dangers of Brunch

Have you read The Ethical Slut? It’s the bible of the polyamory set written by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. It’s a classic and a must-read if you want to date, or even just sleep, around. I read it years … Continue reading

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Is it Sex?

I like when lovers write to me. Not love letters, those are usually terrible. I like to look at four-letter-words and know that someone was thinking about me as they were writing them. Reading is a sex act. Think about … Continue reading

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Costello and Tagliapietra

I noticed designers Jeffery Costello and Robert Tagliapietra themselves before I saw their designs. A 2005 photo of the flannel clad, hairy bear couple in Vogue magazine caught my queer eye. Gay male designers are nothing new in fashion, but … Continue reading

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Dear Diana: Lesbian Emotions

How can one avoid lesbian relationships that are hard work emotionally? Is there even such a thing as a committed lesbian relationship that isn’t hard work emotionally? Listen, there’s no way to be intimately involved with another person and not … Continue reading

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Dear Diana: Jackie Chan

Is it weird that last night I dreamed I was Jackie Chan and I was having phenomenal sex with the hottest woman EVER? Btw, I’m not a J.C. fan. Last night I dreamed I was evacuating a menagerie of cute … Continue reading

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